31 year old Wendy is mom to 2 children, a 2 year old daughter and a 10 year old step-daughter.
She is a stay-at-home-mom who is also the owner/creator of Fit & Flow Wellness. Wendy lives in Houston, Texas with her husband.
Here’s how motherhood has changed Wendy…
1. I feel complete. It sounds cliché but I always knew I wanted to be a mom, and once I finally became one, it’s like the missing puzzle piece was finally found.
2. I’ve learned more about who I am and who I want to be. I look at myself as a role model and try to really live a life that I feel is a good example to my daughter. I really strive to be a good person in every moment and every day. I’m far from perfect, but I strive for always doing the right thing in every moment, and forgive myself and try to learn in the moments where I feel I could have handled better.
3. Pregnancy and breastfeeding really took me a step further in clean eating, because I knew I was growing a child and I wanted to grow her with the best nutrients I could find. I paid more attention to ingredient lists and cut out a lot of unpronounceable ingredients that I didn’t want to be feeding my daughter.
4. Patience! Patience for many people does not come very naturally or easily, and it’s something I’ve always wanted to be better at and have always worked out. Having a baby, and now a toddler, my patience is tested regularly, and I’ve definitely improved, and have learned to keep my calm in the middle of toddler storm.
5. I’ve learned to stop sweating the small things… I used to be perfectionist and often fixated on things looking or going exactly to plan. It’s my nature, and I can’t let it go entirely, but I’ve learned to let somethings go, and know that it’s ok. My living room is a crazy mess of toys, and that’s wonderful because it means I have a child, one that I wanted to badly and love more than life itself, so my living room can be a crazy mess of toys and that’s ok. Or maybe the workout I had planned gets cut short or I have to change it up a bit to accommodate a clingy child, and that’s ok! Toddlers, or at least mine, don’t sit a eat perfectly balanced meals, they graze and eat one thing at a time. I have to offer a wide variety throughout the day and week and know she will eat when she’s hungry and what she needs out of all the yummy, healthy foods I offer.
6. There is no need to compare! Instead give and seek inspiration wether it’s mothering, or body or diet, no two people are the same. I mother very naturally and gently, which goes against a lot of today’s parenting (in the US) norms. I didn’t and don’t do CIY, I still breastfeed at 25 months, I nurse her to sleep, I co-sleep, I eat a gluten free diet and therefore don’t eat birthday cake parties, or pizza or bread. No two mom’s have the same day or the same kids, so what’s the point in comparing? No two moms have the same genes or hormones either or body structure, so there’s no need to compare, just a need to provide inspiration to others and to find other moms who inspire you!
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